Energy That I Keep

You have just received an emergency call! You rush out of the house and glance at your phone as you start your car’s engine... 45%. You immediately plug your phone into the charger but it’s not working. You make a split-second decision to send a quick text or quick call to let someone know you’re turning your phone off and will see them when you arrive.

You arrive at an event and take out your phone to take a quick selfie before the festivities begin… 50%. You take the selfie and immediately disable all apps.

You’re so excited, you have finally made it to the museum, park or botanical garden that everyone has been raving about. Your camera is all set or so you think. You take it out to get a photo of the entrance… 35%. You know you’ll be there for hours so you make a conscious decision to only take photos of the most beautiful or important exhibits.

You are almost home, almost at the store or almost at your place of employment. Then it happens either the gas light or the engine light cuts on. You immediately turn off the air or heat along with the music.

Ah… don’t act like you have never done that.

We do these out of impulse. We do these things to preserve energy. Why is it so hard to practice this process in other aspects of our everyday lives? You know exactly what I mean -establishing, setting and enforcing the boundaries necessary to keep us at 100%.  A few of my coworkers and I had a fantastic break on Friday. The topic may seem morbid to some but it something that we will all do one day; die. A co-worker announced to us that part of her final wishes is to have her funeral at 7:30 a.m. We all looked puzzled and questioned, "Why?"

Her response was priceless, 

"Well, I like mornings but that way I don’t have to worry about the people that cared nothing about me being there.”

Smart woman. Wise woman. This is true, for those that care no time would be to early nor too late. That piece of the conversation stayed with me. I begin to really think. Those that mean well; mean well wholeheartedly. Those that never meant you any good, probably never will and posting R.I.P won’t give them a pass for any time they failed to post Congrats! or messaging a quick how are you? Re-read it, not everyone will catch that the first time. The simple truth is those that celebrate your presence will be the only ones to truly mourn your absence. Yes, people change but never think that you shouldn’t question their reason for change.  Don’t allow or accept that change if it means that liking, needing or wanting pieces of YOU is only beneficial to them or their cause. It’s no different than sending an invitation to a wedding or party. It’s no different than removing people from a friend list or unfollowing people. It’s a right. An entitlement. Choose the energy that you wish to absorb and determine whom your energy is best spent with. Check your battery. Consult your soul. Preserve... wisely.